One of the things I love about my church is that they are actually doing something about divorce. One member was recently removed from the church for seeking an un-biblical divorce. It was done in a loving, clear, Matthew 18 style and sent a great message to the church. Unfortunately, too many churches are silent on “frivorce*” as that would impact donations. But that does an injustice to the aggrieved partner, to the children and to society at large. I guarantee you that others in our church will think twice about such divorces, because they know there will be church discipline.
Via The first redefinition of marriage was much worse for children than same-sex marriage:
No-fault divorce is worse than same-sex marriage, and there is almost no support among Christians for taking it on, although my view is that both no-fault divorce and same-sex marriage need to be repealed. I don’t know how we are going to fix this unless Christians start to get serious about marrying well, and for the long-term. But more is needed – we have to make it harder for people to get divorced, and harder for people to get money from the government just for having children outside of marriage. We have to shame behaviors that harm children, and shrink government so that men become more indispensable, and staying married becomes more important to women. (over two-thirds of divorces are initiated by women)
And (in response to a comment below) we should be showing young people the benefits of getting married and staying married – not just for children, but for society as a whole. That’s especially true for young Christians in church – in my experience, the men often don’t see marriage as an exciting enterprise that could make a difference for Christ, and the women often think of marriage as something boring to put off for as long as possible. I think one of the great ways of evangelizing the culture is showing them a romantic marriage, a home that is warm and welcoming, and happy, healthy children who are respectful and hard-working.
You can read more in this article about no-fault divorce by Dr. Stephen Baskerville. (The Baskerville that Mohler mentioned)
He covers 5 myths about no-fault divorce:
No-fault divorce permitted divorce by mutual consent, thus making divorce less acrimonious
We cannot force people to remain married and should not try
No-fault divorce has led men to abandon their wives and children
When couples cannot agree or cooperate about matters like how the children should be raised, a judge must decide according to “the best interest of the child”
Divorce must be made easy because of domestic violence
*frivolous (i.e., un-biblical) divorces