I am so grateful to God that I married young and married well. The world was fallen then, of course, but now it seems ridiculously hard for young people to marry well. One of the many reasons is the advice given by feminists like Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg:
“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”
Side note: The entire article mentioned children once, and that had the caveat about “if” you have them.
So Sheryl thinks that females should have sex with lots of different guys before marrying — i.e, be sluts. And make no mistake, when she says “date” she means “have sex with.” She even uses the words sexy and sexier. That’s horrific and evil advice. And it is false, because no matter how many times she repeats it, women don’t find beta men sexy at all. It is like drinking saltwater: Men are told to be subservient to women, and when it doesn’t work they do it even more, with disastrous consequences.
Fact: Men do not want women who have slept around. Feminists lie and say that men don’t care, but that’s poisonous advice. When it comes to marriage, high value men will always choose someone younger, prettier, debt-free, chaste, tattoo-free, etc.
When women sleep around in their teens and 20’s:
- They reduce the ability to bond
- They get diseases
- They set impossibly high standards for future husbands to meet. Sure, a 9 guy will sleep with a 5/6 girl when drunk or desperate, but there is no way he is going to wife her up. But now she thinks she can marry a guy like that. Her poor beta husband will always come in second place.
- They will hit the “wall” around 30 or so and not realize that hotter and/or older guys won’t be into them any longer. Those guys will chase the younger ones.
- Women want to marry up (hypergamy). But when they are ready to “settle down” (read: get a less attractive chump to fund their lifestyle and have children with until, if she wants to, she can divorce him and take half of his stuff), the pool of guys for her is small or nonexistent. Those guys are either already married, opt out of marriage or want someone younger/prettier/more chaste. Or the women make more than the available men and therefore aren’t interested in them.
And while I prefer smart women, Sandberg’s definition of opinionated usually means a harpy. And men don’t want ambitious women. That’s another popular lie.
Never buy into the lie that women are allowed to have standards for men but that it is misogynistic if men have standards.
Ladies, don’t ruin your lives by listening to Sheryl Sandberg instead of God. Your best path is to be chaste then marry young to a committed Christian and stay with him for life. There is a long line of women who slept around in their 20’s under the delusion that they could just marry their pick of guys whenever they wanted to. They hit the wall and now spend their money on anti-depressants and their time rationalizing why they are OK with being lonely and childless forever.
The 30’s are not the new 20’s, they are a key decade to accomplish things and make good decisions that will greatly impact the rest of your life.
Bonus: Great advice in this video. People who think they are always the victim will eventually be toxic in relationships. She’ll start to rationalize that you are the oppressor. Radical feminists can only survive on college campuses.