The truth that people who have sex create a bond isn’t just biblical (“one flesh”), it is scientific. Anyone supporting “comprehensive” sex education should be teaching this.
J. Budziszewski is a philosophy professor at the University of Texas. He shares the following illustration, summarized well by Chuck Colson when describing Budziszewski’s book, Ask Me Anything: Provocative Answers for College Students:
My favorite question is why “sowing your wild oats” never works out the way it’s supposed to. Sexuality, he says, is like duct tape. The first time you use it, it sticks you to whomever it touches. But just like that duct tape, if you rip it off and then touch it to someone else, it isn’t as sticky as it was before. So what happens when you pull it loose from one partner after another? Budziszewski explains: You just don’t stick anymore, your sexual partners seem like strangers, and you stop feeling anything.
Ripping the duct tape off is extremely painful as well, especially the first time – just as the break-up of a sexual relationship can be more painful than a regular one. It may seem progressively easier to “tear off” with subsequent partners, but you can’t make it stick on command when you finally decide to commit.
Here’s an article from the Boundless Webzine that describes it in more detail.
“But how do you know if you have a commitment?” he asked.
“Easy,” I said. “If you’re married, you’ve got one. If you’re not married, you don’t.”
Science confirms that this isn’t just a clever illustration. Consider oxytocin, a chemical that, among other things, encourages bonding of mates. More about it here. It is no wonder why people form sexual addictions and why encouraging people to experiment with any sexual behavior will lead to problems.
Do these “experts” pushing to normalize fornication and homosexuality not understand the psychological and physiological implications of such behavior? Or is the problem that they understand them too well? Teaching the sex without consequences myth (“just use condoms and everything will be ok!”) is cruel and stupid.
I like this duct tape example because it is provocative, accurate and helpful in exposing the lies of the sex-as-recreation crowd. Regardless of what Planned Parenthood and the rest tell you, sex outside of a one man, one woman marriage will always hurt you. No amount of birth control and abortions can change that.
This concept is right out of the Bible:
1 Corinthians 6:16-18 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
Once again, God’s way is the best way. When God described the union of a man and a woman as “one flesh,” He meant it. You become one. When your flesh is joined and you tear it apart it will be extremely painful.
Yet as He shows again and again, redemption and healing are possible with him. He loves to forgive and help people out of bondage. Today is a great day to stop the cycle and educate people about the truth. Here’s a book designed to help (I haven’t read it but heard the author on a radio show) – The Invisible Bond: How to Break Free from Your Sexual Past.
Note: This is a somewhat edited repeat from 2008.