Marie makes some excellent biblical points here — In Defense of Complementarianism…(Submitting to Your Husband, and Fun Things Like That). Go read it. I’ll wait here.
If you read the whole Bible I think you can’t go wrong with the guidance on marriage and families. I’ve enjoyed teaching some small groups of men at CareNet Preganancy Center about their roles as husbands and fathers. My wife and I will be teaching a class at church based on the Fireproof movie this Fall (which reminds me that I should probably read the materials!).
Some people get hung up on the “submission” thing because they don’t understand it properly and don’t take the time to learn more.
Part of the problem is reading the text from a perverted 21st century worldview. The writings were probably just as controversial when originally written but for the opposite reasons. If one understands just how poorly women were treated in those cultures (as they are today in many other cultures) you would have been shocked at how Jesus elevated wives to their proper status.
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Ask yourself: How much did Jesus love the church?
P.S. For guys with wives who think it is politically incorrect to say that men and women have different roles, try this the next time your hear a sound that could be a burglar: “Honey, it is your turn to go check it out.”