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“Don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant and die.”

The title is a memorable line from the movie Mean Girls, where the gym coach is teaching sex education (see the video below).  Whether by design or not, it demonstrated the ineffectiveness of both extremes of teaching kids about an extremely important topic.

Don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant and die.  Don’t have sex in the missionary position, don’t have sex standing up . . . Just don’t do it, promise?  OK, everybody take some rubbers.

I like how it skewered both ends of the spectrum.  Repeating the Nike hybrid of  Just (Don’t) Do It won’t be effective without some guidelines on avoiding temptation and more, and passing out condoms like that is an implicit and explicit message that you expect kids to have sex outside of marriage (in addition to giving them a false sense of security).

Of course I endorse chastity and the abstinence of any sex acts outside of marriage as the ideal for everyone.  It is the only proven way to avoid pregnancy, disease, and emotional damage (and, if you are one of those religious types, the only way to obey God).

Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.

They should also emphasize the most recent statistics demonstrating that those who finish high school and don’t have sex outside of marriage are extremely unlikely to end up poor, whereas if you do the opposite you are very likely to be poor.

They should teach girls the lines that guys often use and how to respond to them, for example:

  • Male: If you loved me you’d have sex with me.
  • Female: If you loved me you wouldn’t pressure me to have sex with you.

They should teach guys the lines girls use as well.  I know of one young man whose girlfriend recently broke up with him because he wouldn’t have sex with her.

But the abstinence / chastity message should include simple but effective ways to avoid temptation.  Too many people have good intentions but put themselves in situations that inevitably lead to compromise.

They should also coach you on how much your actions regarding sex are influenced by:

  • What you view
  • What you think about
  • Who you spend alone time with

Contrary to stereotypes, I have no issue with schools teaching a balanced sex education program, provided it is thorough and fact-based.  Birth control options are real and it is acceptable to discuss them, provided the whole story is told and the schools don’t distribute the condoms or other birth control themselves and don’t facilitate the abortion process.

For example, truly comprehensive sex education should teach the following regarding birth control pills:

  • They are X% effective at preventing pregnancies (but the data must be given for different demographic groups, because discipline and effectiveness tends to be lower for younger and poorer women).
  • They offer zero protection against STDs
  • They offer zero protection against emotional issues
  • There are possible side effects

More considerations and possible elements of a truly comprehensive sex education program:

  • Surveys demonstrate that married couples have the most satisfying sex lives.
  • It is absolutely ridiculous for schools to dispense birth control.  It sends the implicit and explicit message that you expect kids to have sex and that the adults say you should use birth control.  Guess which message they will listen to and which one they will ignore?
  • Hey parents, how about supervising your kids?  Giving kids unrestricted time alone with the opposite sex is virtually guaranteed to turn out badly.
  • Teach the truth about the “hookup” culture, where kids barely know each other and have sex.  Girls participating in “hookups” are basically acting like free prostitutes.  They have all the risks of pregnancy, disease, crushed self esteem, etc., but they aren’t making any money!  Somehow they convinced themselves that they are proving their equality by acting like guys do.  And of course there is the associated drug and alcohol abuse required to numb their minds to what they are doing.  Sad.
  • How Sex is Like Duct Tape (great illustration about chemicals, bonding and the pain of out-of-wedlock sex)

And of course, Christians can teach their children about God’s plan for sex and how great it is when used as designed.

The primary problem isn’t what one class teaches in one part of its curriculum in high school.  Whether  you use the falsely titled “comprehensive” Planned Parenthood type curriculum or that of the abstinence groups, the whole thing is doomed to fail if kids aren’t supervised, aren’t equipped to say no, aren’t given support by parents and just wallow in the sewer of our sex-obsessed culture. 

All of the evils of Planned Parenthood-style sex education are brought to you by the “Christian” Left, mocking God and his word since their inception.  Churchgoers who support “same-sex marriage” have nearly identical views to the world. It shows who their real father is.

1 John 2:15-16 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.

Jude 4 For certain people have crept in unnoticed who long ago were designated for this condemnation, ungodly people, who pervert the grace of our God into sensuality and deny our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ.

When I pointed out problems of sex ed on one post I got this answer in reply:

The problem is that people screw.

My reply to him:

How Zen-like ;-).

Yes, and people steal.  And lie.  And don’t study in school.  And do drugs.  And drink alcohol and drive.

So do we give up educating them that abstaining from these and other behaviors would be wise?

Do we let them escape from consequences when they do the behaviors?

Do we just focus on making is safer to do these things?  “If you are going to drink and drive, be sure to have an air bag in the car.”

Fortunately, one commenter saw the light:

I think his point was that no matter the sex ed, the rest of culture undoes it.

That sums it up nicely.

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Hobby Lobby enemies tip their hands at their malice and/or ignorance

For what should be the 1,000th time, Hobby Lobby already paid for 16 types of birth control.  They just don’t want to pay for abortifacients.  If you want us “out of your womb,” then why ask the government to force businesses to pay for your abortions?  And we don’t actually care about being in your womb at all.  We just want to protect any human beings temporarily residing there.

Anyone who doesn’t know that by now is either malicious and/or a truly low-information voter who has little hope of ever being properly informed.

The Democrats who are still fighting Hobby Lobby think their voters are stupid, and they may be right.

Placing free birth control above religious freedom, Democrats in both the Senate and the House on Wednesday announced legislation to “right” the alleged “wrong” done to women by the U.S. Supreme Court’s recent Hobby Lobby ruling.

“Women across the country and men are outraged by a decision by five Supreme Court justices that all of a sudden says your boss has an opportunity to decide for you what your health care choices are,” Sen. Patty Murray, the bill’s sponsor, told MSNBC’s Andrea Mitchell on Wednesday.

“That outrage is being transmitted to everyone, and I think we have a very good chance of rewriting the law so that the justices can’t take away women’s ability to make their own health care choices.”

There is no way those politicians don’t know the truth about how Hobby Lobby isn’t stopping anyone from doing anything.  And they pay well above minimum wage, so if their employees really want to kill their babies they can afford to.

False teachers are actively protesting Hobby Lobby and are turning logic upside down, as usual, and pretending that the Supreme Court decision is somehow limiting religious freedom.  What a sick joke.

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False teachers want to reduce abortions by increasing abortions. Or something like that.

False teacher Chuck “Jesus is not the only way” Currie took a break from taking little girls to gay pride parades to spread disinformation about how Contraception Reduces Abortion Rate.

It is a classically disingenuous move on his part.  Pro-aborts like him pretend to want to reduce abortions, but everyone who supports the Democrats is explicitly in favor of taxpayer-funded abortions that will obviously increase the number of abortions (duh).  So if they really wanted to reduce them then why take the money of pro-lifers by force to increase them?

And he ignores that half of abortions occur while women are on birth control.  The rate of failure is highest for teens.

Reducing the number of abortions is a cause most people of faith share but not all people of faith believe women should have access to contraception – some believe such access should be difficult or even illegal.

That is a straw-man argument.  Just because we didn’t buy Sandra Fluke’s nonsense doesn’t mean we want birth control to be illegal.  She’s a 31 yr. old law student managing to finance a $50,000 /yr. education and she can’t get her boyfriends to pool $10/month for birth control?  It was one of the most Prozac-inducing parts of the campaign watching so many people side with her.  Is it so hard to see the difference between access and forcing others to pay?

And isn’t it just possible that all the great pro-life laws (ultrasounds, informed consent, parental notification, etc.) put into place have helped reduce abortions?  Remember that pro-aborts strenuously oppose all of those.

Such thinking increases the need for abortion.  Groups like the Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice work to promote contraception.  We need more voices joining with RCRC.

The RCRC is all about abortion.  “Reproductive Choice” is a fallacious term, as all abortions kill humans who have already been reproduced.

At the same time, faith communities need to be fighting hard for quality sex education in our public schools and to be providing such education in our churches.  A great resource for churches is the Our Whole Lives curriculum developed by the United Church of Christ and Unitarian Universialist Association.

I can only imagine what perversities that Chuck and the Unitarians have cooked up for these poor young people.  Remember, Chuck is so eager to show how “progressive” he is that he uses his 6 yr. old daughters as props to take to gay pride parades.  That’s sick, but he is a perfect picture of the “Christian” Left (Read: Wolves in sheep’s clothing).

Run, don’t walk, from false teachers like this and the denominations that support them.

Responding to a pro-abortionist

I barely have time to blog so I really don’t have time to address all the irrational comments that get left here. But now and then I like to analyze one to show just how extreme many of the pro-abortion people are.  Here’s a comment from my latest post.

Abortion may be a personal moral issue, and you are free to think of an abortion you might undergo to be an ‘evil’. But you have no legal right to impose your morality into the legitimate health care concerns of others – others just as capable as you in understanding the moral concerns of these decisions – without undermining the rights you yourself enjoy.

All laws are tied to morality, so the “don’t force your morals on others” slogan is intellectually bankrupt.

And of course, he forgets about the “others” that are crushed and dismembered because of these “rights.” It is ironic that those who supposedly champion “human rights” ignore the most fundamental right of all: The right not to be chopped up in pieces just because someone more powerful than you doesn’t want you around.

Look, if you want to reduce the impetus to use abortion as a method of birth control, then support those methods that reduce unwanted pregnancies.

I do. I support truly comprehensive sex education, which would include:

  • Abstinence is the best policy — see here and here.
  • The scientific fact is that a new human being is created at fertilization.
  • If you don’t have sex out of wedlock and you get a high school diploma then you are very unlikely to be poor, and you are likely to be poor if you do the opposite.
  • Planned Parenthood systematically hides the evils of statutory rape and sex trafficking.
  • Marriage is a union of a man and woman, and is the only combination that can create a child and that can provide a mother and a father to child (the obvious ideal).
  • “Over 70% of poor, cohabiting teenagers using condoms will be pregnant within a year.” — a fact from Planned Parenthood’s stats.
  • Most birth control methods offer offer zero protection against STDs.
  • Birth control offers zero protection against emotional issues.
  • The pill and other methods of birth control can have serious side effects.
  • Surveys demonstrate that married couples have the most satisfying sex lives.
  • Sex is “God’s wedding present” and great when used as designed.
  • It is absolutely ridiculous for schools to dispense birth control. It sends the implicit and explicit message that you expect kids to have sex and that the adults say you should use birth control. Guess which message they will listen to and which one they will ignore?
  • Parents need to supervise their kids. Giving kids unrestricted time alone with the opposite sex is virtually guaranteed to turn out badly.
  • Gays have syphilis and HIV rates over 40 times the rest of the population.
  • Teach the truth about the “hookup” culture, where kids barely know each other and have sex. Girls participating in “hookups” are basically acting like free prostitutes. They have all the risks of pregnancy, disease, crushed self esteem, etc., but they aren’t making any money! Somehow they convinced themselves that they are proving their equality by acting like guys do. And of course there is the associated drug and alcohol abuse required to numb their minds to what they are doing. Sad.
  • Sex is Like Duct Tape — great illustration about chemicals, bonding and the pain of out-of-wedlock sex.
  • Abortion is a terrible thing to do, but it is forgivable through Jesus. Go see your local crisis pregnancy center for free post abortion trauma counseling.
  • Post-abortion trauma is real.
  • You are much more likely to divorce and be in abusive relationships if you have sex out of wedlock and especially if you live together.
  • And more facts just like that!

Support free access to birth control.

Democrats assume that includes abortifacients, but those aren’t contraception, they are abortions. Technically, abortions might be considered “birth control” but only in the most morbid and perverse way imaginable.

Free birth control does not reduce abortions. Look at Planned Parenthood’s own stats and see how high the failure rates are for teens vs. adults.

Support the use of contraceptives. Support educating our youth on these matters.

I do support education, as noted above. I just tell the truth and the whole truth, while you spread lies, pain and disease.

Support open and free access to women’s reproductive health care.

Abortion isn’t reproductive health care. The humans have already reproduced.

Support maternity leave.

Who says I oppose that? Moms should stay home with their kids, at least until they are in school.  But I am not obligated to fund that.  Protesting an immoral act does not obligate you to take care of its victims (even though pro-lifers do many things with their own time and money to help women and children).

Support free health care and income supplements for these mothers with young children.

It is never really free. Once again, Liberals fail at basic economics.

The list goes on. And the reason why the anti-choice crowd needs to put their collective regressive head in a paint shaker and turn it on is because these methods actually WORK to reduce unwanted pregnancies while insuring the best possible health care coverage to mothers AND their young children.

Why do you insist that we get so intimately involved in the lives of others? If you didn’t teach people that they could do whatever they wanted without consequences then they would make better decisions.

And yes, I am anti-choice — that is, anti-choice to kill innocent but unwanted human beings.  And you aren’t pro-choice, you are pro-abortion, because you want to force your extremist views on others and force them to pay for abortions.

But, of course, when push comes to shove, the anti-choice crowd doesn’t want to pay the price for their imposed solution: they want young vulnerable women to pay the price for the anti-choice crowd’s religious tyrannical zealotry while hiding behind such notions as ‘protecting’ the Bill of Rights while advocating to undermine it in the name of divinely inspired morality.

Please preach more to me about vulnerable people!  You seek to destroy the most vulnerable of all

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Streep calls you on it, on this hypocrisy in action, this coercive push to impose misogynistic practice on women.

Yeah, I’m so misogynistic that I oppose gender-selection abortions and you support them. You know, the ones that kill females for the sole reason that they are female.

And you help Planned Parenthood hide statutory rape and sex trafficking. Tell me more about my misogyny.

And I donate time and money to crisis pregnancy centers that help women in need. Tell me more about the misogyny of all the female workers and volunteers at the clinic.

What is astounding is just how insidious the coercion of the anti-choice position when other women try to reduce the rights of their sisters thinking themselves pious rather than the incredibly stupid, arrogant bullies they really are.

Bullies? Heh. Abortion is the ultimate bullying: Literally destroying the weakest members of society. And you are the worst kind of bully: Baiting young people into the physical and emotional pain caused by out of wedlock sex, then forcing pro-lifers to pay to kill the unborn. That’s a special kind of sickness you’ve got there.

False teacher Chuck Currie leads the cheers for abortionists

False teacher Chuck Currie took a break from taking little girls to gay pride parades to cheer on his heroes, the abortionists.  Via Want To Reduce Abortions?:

Being pro-choice doesn’t mean being pro-abortion.  Abortion ought to be legal, safe and rare.

That’s their fallacious catch phrase, of course.  But they fight safety measures tooth and nail, so that’s a lie on their part.  And Chuck & Co. fight for taxpayer-funded abortions and were even willing to risk losing their entire Obamacare dream over it.   They think that one of the problems in society is that we aren’t crushing and dismembering enough innocent but unwanted human beings in the womb, and that if we only killed more then life would be better and Jesus would be happier.  And they know that taxpayer-funded abortions will increase the rate of black abortions to white from the current 3-to-1 ratio.  Seems kinda racist to me.

It ought to be a real choice that women aren’t forced into making because of financial considerations.

The scientific fact is that a new human being is created at fertilization.  So Chuck and the other fake Christian pro-aborts think it should be a choice to kill innocent but unwanted human beings.  This is the guy whose favorite verse is about the “least of these.”

Between 1990 and 2008, pregnancy and abortion rates for women in their twenties dropped dramatically, a new study revealed today. Pregnancy rates fell by 18 percent, while abortion rates dropped by a third.

Probably because of abstinence education.  Remember that if abortion rates go up the pro-aborts blame abstinence education.

One of the biggest influencing factors in this decrease is the growing accessibility, use, and options for birth control. Contraceptive use is the best way to prevent abortions in the U.S.

Spoken like a true non-Christian.  The best way is for people not to have sex out of wedlock.

It is ironic that those that call themselves pro-life are so often opposed to contraception.  The end result of the Roman Catholic Church’s war on contraception will be increased abortions – not to mention HIV/AIDS, other STDs and preventable cancers.

HIV/AIDS is most prevalent in the gay community — the very people Chuck parades for.

This drop off in the number of abortions in encouraging – and shows that groups like Planned Parenthood are being effective.

Planned Parenthood is a serial hider of statutory rapists, sex traffickers and more. Chuck and the other fake Christians who support Planned Parenthood know that but ignore it.

Pro-life response of the week

Or month, or whatever. Sometimes I like to turn comment replies into post. Here’s one from the Great pro-life display post.

Hi Mary Kate,

Thanks for visiting and commenting. I hope you reconsider your views. For any pro-choice-to-kill-an-innocent-human-being-in-the-womb argument, ask the same questions about that rationale for human beings outside the womb. Can a woman kill a toddler due to economic, career, romance, etc. concerns? Of course not. So the only question is, “What is the unborn?” The scientific fact is that a new human being is created at fertilization.

Having said that, let’s consider your arguments:

I think that if this country would put some effort into safe and effective birth control, there would be a lot less abortions.

Possibly, but I see a couple problems with that. First, this country does not have a birth control shortage. It is been getting pushed for decades, and the false sense of security it provides has led to tens of millions of diseases and countless abortions.

More importantly, that’s like saying that we won’t make murder outside the womb illegal because there are things we could be doing to reduce murders.

Furthermore, I believe the entire issue should be handled between a woman and her physician.

That ignores the third human being in the equation. How about the unborn and her physician? And could the woman and her physician kill a toddler without consequence? Again, the question is, “What is the unborn?,” and I answered it above.

Everyone else should mind their own business.

Like you are minding your own business here? What about the unborn child’s business? Again, the question is, “What is the unborn?,” and I answered it above. I doubt you’d make the “mind your own business” claim if someone was trying to kill an innocent but unwanted human being outside the womb.

If you really are worried about children, then volunteer to help teenage mothers, adopt orphans, teach children to be responsible and consider the consequences of their actions, teach them how to prevent unwanted pregnancy, and support the family planning efforts of groups like planned parenthood, who prevent far more unwanted pregnancies than any other group among people who can’t afford health care.

I address that more fully in Pro-lifers don’t care about kids after they are born?, but please answer this simple question to yourself: If 3,000 toddlers per day were getting crushed and dismembered because they were unwanted, could you oppose that without being obliged to care for them to adulthood? Or would that mean you didn’t care for them?

Protesting an immoral act does not obligate you to take care of its victims. If you agree with the line that pro-lifers don’t care about the unborn after they are born or that we have a “fetus fetish” or other made-up malady, answer me this: If the gov’t wanted to reduce homelessness by destroying homeless people, would you have a “homeless fetish” and be a raging hypocrite if you protested that but weren’t willing to house them all yourself? Remember, the issue isn’t whether human beings are out of the womb or not but whether it is legitimate to protest an act if you don’t plan to fully fund the consequences of stopping it.

Do you have to be willing to take complete responsibility for human beings you are trying to protect? Can you protest the abuse of the homeless, spouses, children or pets without having to care for them all? (As noted in the link, pro-lifers do a great deal with their own time and money to help women and families in need. I’m just pointed out how fallacious the pro-legalized abortion argument is).

Prevention is the antidote to abortion, not legislation.

Is the prevention of murder, drunk driving, gay-bashing, etc. the answer to all those ills rather than legislation? With that reasoning we wouldn’t need any laws.

Again, the question is, “What is the unborn?,” and I answered it above. “It” is an innocent human being deserving of protection.

Mega roundup

Women who are serious about their faith are much less likely to divorce – Not surprising.  Don’t be fooled by the “Christians do ___ as often as non-Christians.”  Countless people check the “Christian” box on surveys but are practical atheists.

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Worst President Ever: Obama’s Intimidation Tactics Continue – history will not remember this president kindly.  The present isn’t too fond of him, either.  It says  a lot about his followers that they don’t object to him using his position to intimidate private citizens with a cascade of lies.  They continue to be baited by the “Squirrel!” distractions such as the “Republicans want to take away your birth control” lies.

Last week, Obama’s re-election campaign sent out a fundraising letter disparaging the Kochs, saying that they were purposefully “jacking up prices at the pump” in order to hurt Americans. The letter, signed by Obama’s Campaign Manager Jim Messina, also attacked the Tea Party and warned that Mitt Romney was going to court the Kochs who he characterized as “two men obsessed with making Barack Obama a one-term president.”

These scare tactics are blatant for their untruths and were easily demolished in a reply letter written by Phillip Ellender, the President of Koch’s Government & Public Affairs department.

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I’d avoid Rick Warren and anything he teaches.  His latest flap over “Chrislam” is a good reason.

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The Left’s birth control meme is one of the silliest things in memory.  Sadly, Rush Limbaugh took the bait on the Fluke / Georgetown nonsense.  This 30 yr. old should go down as making one of the most foolish testimonies ever.  Saying she is going broke over paying for birth control, while attending an elite law school, is laughable.

Forcing people to pay 100% of any medical expenses of other people is not the business of government.  Period.

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When Scientists Are Censors – even atheists can see how Darwinism is a pathetic science-stopper.

“Evolutionary biologists were horrified by the news that a scholarly press was going to publish a work in favor of intelligent design. But a spokesman for the publishing house confirmed to Inside Higher Ed Wednesday that the book’s publication is on hold as it is subjected to further peer review.

Earlier this week, the Panda’s Thumb, a blog about evolutionary theory, posted an item about a forthcoming book from Springer called Biological Information: New Perspectives. The blog-poster and other commenters said the book was a compilation of articles by creationists and intelligent-design proponents and Springer had no business publishing such “creationist pseudoscience.”

Of all the scientific fields, evolutionary biology has become fiefdom where academic freedom is dead and detractors are thrown out and publicly lambasted. And they protect their mandatory orthodoxy with vigor. It’s no wonder so many people refuse to buy into it.”

As an atheist I obviously don’t believe in creation. But I have also looked closely at evolutionary theory and find many holes in it. There are both logical and factual holes in it.

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National Center for Science Education, Darwin/Climate Enforcers, Humiliated by Forged Document Scandal – Must . . . repress . . . schadenfreude . . . The NCSE tried to partner with the climate change lobby even after the latter was busted for all sorts of well-documented deceptions.  Now their new buddies were caught forging a document.  I’ve been saying for a long time that the two movements have so much in common: A materialistic worldview masquerading as science, and kept in play by bullying and the courts — not by its merits.

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Christian woman tortured, paraded in streets for “anti-Islam” views – more from the religion of peace.  Ask yourself if you saw this in the mainstream media.  I was just catching up on some Voice of the Martyrs updates last week.  Christians have it so easy here, yet too often we use our freedom to be lazy and not learn and fight for the truth.

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Why Stories of Trips To Heaven Do Not Line Up With the Bible – Just stick to the Bible, folks!  Or at least read as much of the Bible as you do of books that analyze the Bible.

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If you caught the bit on CNN, The Huffington Post, etc. about the 1% tip from the wealthy banker, please know that it was a hoax.  Not that they’ll be retracting anything . . .

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From the “I am not making this up” category, a school has banned running at recess.

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Roxanne has a great response to a 45 yr. old “Occupy” woman with boyfriend problems.  Don’t miss it.

Yeah, engineers tend to not be into shamanism.  When your job revolves around making sure that something works a certain percentage of the time, within certain reliability parameters, you tend to get bored rather quickly of people who think that reality is merely a patriarchial, anti-Gaian social construct.

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The  reason that liberals, Occupiers, and Democrats are so pro-contraception and pro-abortion is that deep down, they don’t want their shamanistic Occupod lover passing on his genes to anyone. Conservatives look at their conservative lovers and think, “The next generation needs more of this, stat.”

Anyway, back to the issue of shamanistic Occupod men: honey, no one wants to date men who don’t shower, don’t have jobs, smoke weed, and think that the earth is more important than their families’ well-being.  I used to date liberal men.  They are whiny, insecure, think that it’s moral to redistribute other people’s hard-earned money but never give a cent to charity themselves, and think that it’s your duty to supply them with sex.