The Left — including the “Christian” Left — wants to believe the following views simultaneously. Both are wrong, but they should at least pick a lane.
- Sex is no big deal. The clear biblical ideal of only having sex in a one-man, one-woman marriage must be mocked. You can have sex with any gender, any time, with any number of people, regardless of how long you’ve known the person, and no one can call you a slut. And so on.
- Sex is such an insanely big deal so you have to follow our very specific and completely un-romantic legal rules or it will be considered rape — a crime that could land you in jail for decades and ruin your life.
Here’s a good overview, via We’re casual about sex and serious about consent. But is it working?
Boy meets girl at a party. Boy and girl get drunk. Boy asks girl to go back to his room. Boy and girl kiss. Boy wants to go further. Girl hesitates; she isn’t sure. Boy takes out a condom. Girl opens it. So did both parties consent to sex? That’s the question du jour on our college campuses. And on many of them, the answer would almost surely be “no.” At least 800 institutions have established some kind of “affirmative consent” policy, whereby both partners must give clear and unambiguous consent to every sexual act. Simply engaging in sex doesn’t signify that you have consented to it; you have to agree directly and explicitly to anything that you do. And two states, California and New York, have written that standard into law. But I’ve got a different question, one which you don’t hear nearly as often: If boy and girl don’t really know each other, how could they know what each other really wants? That’s a question about intimacy, not just about consent. And the discussion about emotional connection and communication is mostly missing from the endless role-plays, workshops and online courses that we foist upon our students when they get to college. In fact, it’s the great contradiction at the heart of our college sex wars. [Innocent until proven guilty? Not under ‘yes means yes.’] University administrators take it for granted that a certain amount of sex will be “casual,” that is, devoid of intimate emotion or connection. But our rules now require the sharing of feelings, even in an encounter that is by definition divorced from them. We simply assume that virtual strangers will be having sex. But we urge them — or, even legally enjoin them — to communicate openly and explicitly about it. Good luck with that. We might succeed in cajoling more students into some kind of verbal consent. But that’s a script, a bedroom contract between sexual vendors. Yes, it will make the whole transaction legal. But consensual? Really? If you met somebody an hour ago, how can you tell what they want? And since you know so little about them, aren’t you more likely to do something that they don’t want, no matter what kind of “consent” they have given? I’d like to suggest a modest addition to our campaigns against sexual assault on campus: Instead of simply pleading with students to ask for explicit consent when having sex, we should be asking them why they are having sex in the first place. I think that we’ll find the answers are often troubling. In several recent studies, college women have told researchers that they dislike the hookup culture. But they engage in it anyway. “It’s just something that I feel like as a college student you’re supposed to do,” one woman told journalist Donna Freitas, who surveyed 2,500 college students about sex.
It is tragic that the Leftist education, media and political leaders have created a climate where people feel pressured to have God-mocking casual sex. Instead of simply explaining how ridiculous casual sex is, the educators assume you will have it then give a bunch of silly rules for you to follow when you are intoxicated. And that’ll be $50,000 per year, please.
I’m surprised that lawyers for rapists and pedophiles haven’t used the Left’s arguments to minimize their crimes. After all, if sex is such a trivial thing, how can it be considered so much worse than a minor physical assault?
Here’s another Leftist self-parody: California Teachers Tell Kids to Ask for Consent Every 10 Minutes During Sex. But there is a tiny sliver of good news in this:
Spontaneity and political correctness cannot coexist.
For once the unintended consequences that attend all moonbattery could have a positive effect. Young men who do not want their lives destroyed by bogus rape allegations are now required to trust women before having sex with them. This could represent a step away from the hook-up culture and back in the direction of decency.