“Same-sex marriages” — redefining marriage and fidelity

Via Many Successful Gay Marriages Share an Open Secret – NYTimes.com.

New research at San Francisco State University reveals just how common open relationships are among gay men and lesbians in the Bay Area. The Gay Couples Study has followed 556 male couples for three years — about 50 percent of those surveyed have sex outside their relationships, with the knowledge and approval of their partners.

That consent is key. “With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating,” said Colleen Hoff, the study’s principal investigator, “but with gay people it does not have such negative connotations.”

Of course not!  That is the dirty little secret of the gay world: They will have literally hundreds of sex partners over the course of their lives, often anonymous.  How soul-crushing is that?  It does explain why gays have 40+ times higher rates of Syphilis and HIV, partly because 62% of men who know they are HIV-positive have unprotected sex with men  .  Meditate on that for a moment.  How evil and vile do you have to be to knowingly risk infecting others with a deadly disease, just because you don’t want to wear a condom when having sex?  That is one of the most profoundly selfish acts imaginable, yet the mainstream media and “comprehensive sex education” classes never tell you about these things.

None of this is news in the gay community, but few will speak publicly about it. Of the dozen people in open relationships contacted for this column, no one would agree to use his or her full name, citing privacy concerns. They also worried that discussing the subject could undermine the legal fight for same-sex marriage.

Yep.  You wouldn’t want the truth to get in the way of the agenda.  Just go watch some more episodes of Modern Family, people.  Nothing to see here.  Whatever you do, don’t apply critical thinking skills or the Bible.

According to the research, open relationships almost always have rules.

That is how it works for Chris and James. Over drinks upstairs at the venerable Twin Peaks Tavern in the Castro neighborhood of San Francisco, they beamed as they recalled the day in June 2008 that they donned black suits and wed at City Hall, stunned by the outpouring of affection from complete strangers. “Even homeless people and bike messengers were congratulating us,” said Chris, 42.

A couple since 2002, they opened their relationship a year ago after concluding that they were not fully meeting each other’s needs. But they have rules: complete disclosure, honesty about all encounters, advance approval of partners, and no sex with strangers — they must both know the other men first. “We check in with each other on this an awful lot,” said James, 37.

Oh, well if you have some rules and check in with each other before having sex with other people that’s fine.

Seriously, the NY Times title was ironic enough, calling relationships with built-in infidelity “successful.”   I guess if you are redefining marriage you can redefine whatever you like.

And the fact that the “pro-gay Christians” ignore this rampant infidelity while advocating for “same-sex marriage” because the unions are allegedly “loving” is just more proof of their being false teachers.

7 thoughts on ““Same-sex marriages” — redefining marriage and fidelity”

  1. From personal experience, being in a monogamous same sex relationship for over 20 years, I can say that those others who have consensual “open” relationships do not affect our commitment nor the marriages of straights. According to the article’s statistic, the “open” relationships were among gay men. Include lesbian couples and you will find their level of monogamy probably higher than that of male-female couples. Ergo, red herring.


    1. If what you wrote is true, then your long-standing commitment to “monogamous sin” just means that you are an exception. There is still no good reason to encourage this wildly destructive behavior. The gays conceding the traits of “successful” gay relationships didn’t think it was a red herring.

      I hope you repent and believe while there is time.


    2. Doug, you write, “those others who have consensual ‘open’ relationships do not affect our commitment nor the marriages of straights.”

      In the same way, no-fault divorce laws didn’t evidently affect those who have remained faithfully married, but it’s absurd to suggest that such laws haven’t had a profound overall effect on society and on the institution of marriage. Make marriage about the weakest legally binding contract around, and the consequences predictably follow.

      Radically redefining marriage will have a significant effect on society. Marriage was held to be both heterosexual and monogamous, and now seeing that people on your side disdain both as actual requirements of marriage, I do wish that your side had been more honest from the beginning.

      But, then, “discussing the subject could undermine the legal fight for same-sex marriage.”

      Honesty must be sacrificed to political expediency.


  2. Neil, thanks for this enlightening critique. The New York Times indeed, doesn’t apply critical thinking skills…. or the Bible and that makes them heathens. Always good to see pragmatic Americans. Best regards from Luxembourg.


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