Homophobia is a foolish pejorative (belittling expression) designed to put anyone who dares question the Gay-Lesbian-Bisexual-Transgender lobby on the defensive. It is a transparently childish put-down, but it actually works to silence many people.
Ironically, as the writer of A Rational Aversion once pointed out, the real homophobes are those who fear the GLBT lobby so much that they cater to all the movement’s demands. They are the ones with the irrational, paralyzing fear of doing or saying something politically incorrect. You see it in political, educational, media and church leaders who will do and say almost anything to appease. It is really quite pathetic.
Those of us who are comfortable discussing the relative merits of secular and Biblical arguments on GLBT issues aren’t afraid. I get along fine with straights and gays.
On the flip side, there are some who are heterophobes. I pointed this out in an email thread (excerpts below) and was surprised that the gay gentleman agreed with me.
G: I don’t need you, or anyone else, to recognize my relationship. And yes, you are homophobic and a bigot. Sorry to have to tell you the truth.
Me: I’m confused. As best I can tell you are begging us and even demanding that we recognize your relationships. If you really don’t need anyone to recognize your relationships then we agree on the matter.
G: I don’t respect or recognize your relationship with your wife because I see heterosexuality as basically immoral and sexist.
Me: You sure are judgmental and bigoted against heterosexuals. Read your own words.
G: Yes, I don’t particularly like heterosexuals. That’s why I live in San Francisco. I can go an entire day without having to hear from any of them. And yes, gays and lesbians are reproducing. I’ve donated to the local lesbian-owned sperm bank at least 10 times over the last few years.
So who has the phobia?